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Young Girls and Sex Last night my husband and
I watched 20/20 about a 16 year old girl who had a relationship with her 24 year old manager at Starbucks. When her parents
uncovered the situation they pressed charges against the guy who then spent only 4 months in jail. Now that the girl is a
little older she realizes that she was victimized. She was a child and he was in a position of authority. A Starbucks Human
Resource person actually questioned the upbringing of the girl, "her parents must not have taught her to make good choices".
(She obviously has never had teenagers!) Any business employing teenagers should make their employees go through training
on appropriate behavior. The next 20/20 piece was about Lady Gaga and some other young female celebrity who had
a bunch of plastic surgery done. It just makes me think: how are parents suppose to teach their children how to have healthy
and happy lives when sex is all around them? It's in half the ads on tv and the Internet, most songs they listen to.
Movies are loaded with it. Girls learn to do almost anything to look sexy. Kim, your blog about this is right on! Also,
it's very natural for young girls to start realizing their own sexual power and begin to experiment with it. We should expect
adult men to understand that a young girl doesn't really want what he thinks she wants. Thanks for listening...Mary
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The Beautiful Wedding Dear
Kim:
Paul and I just returned home from Ruthie Wariner's wedding to Alan Centofante. It was wonderful to see the
happiness on their faces as they said their wedding vows, committing themselves to each other for "better or worse, richer
or poorer, sickness and in health, till death do us part"! Tears were streaming down my face when I recalled the
very long journey that the Wariner and Taylor families have been on, and then to share in the joy of Friday night at Ruthie
and Alan's wedding. To look at your web site and see Paul marrying Ryan and Candace, seeing the beautiful wedding
pictures of Sarah and Ray, the joy just keeps coming to my heart. I am so thankful that you and Ron have been the example
of "one man and one woman" to your family. It has lessened some of the sadness I have felt for so many years
over the lives of your precious sisters, Kathy and Judy and their families. I know you know, that all of us in Aunt Ruby's
family have loved all of you, prayed for you, tried to help in anyway we could. I hold all of the LeBaron/Wariner family in
my heart and in my prayers and will continue to do so. I loved the "Mexico Family" that is still on
the hard journey in polgyamy when we met them at Ruthie and Alan's wedding. Such kind, loving people. I am still
a little confused and dazed by all of it, but I know God is at work in all of our lives, drawing us to himself through His
Son, Jesus Christ. My prayer is that God will continue to work in all of our lives, revealing His Truth to us.
Especially the Truth of "one man and one woman becoming one flesh." May God bless you and keep you in His
care as you stand for what is true! May we all continue to reach out to each other in His love, and may His
Truth be received by those we love. Dear Kim and family, thank you for the wonderful time we shared in Portland at the Wedding.
Ryan and Candace, we missed seeing you and your darling children!
In God's Joy,
Your cousin, Donna Warner
In Response to Kim's April Blog
Hi Kim, Our kids deserve to grow
in a better world. Living in the city, I have come to realize how bad this
world is. All we have is prayer and family left. You can't really trust people any more. When we were kids, we played everywhere
and we were safe. Now you have to worry about another kid not liking something about you and shooting you. It is so sad
that our kids will never know the fun we had growing up.. A
big, puddle jumping fan
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Why I Chose Polygamy
OK, here I am. I don't know if anyone is interested in what I have to say or will appreciate my point of view, but boy
am I qualified! There are a few reasons why a woman would
elect to live polygamy. I was never forced into polygamy like some, but chose it because I loved a man that believed in living
it. I was married to him for 29 years and had 14 beautiful children. I have been divorced for a little over 6 years. The main reason I married him and hence into polygamy
was because I loved him so much. He was a man
of God and wanted to do what is right. We had a saying amongst
us that went like this: I would rather have 10 per cent of a 100 per cent man, than 100 per cent of a 10 per
cent man. I don't know much about the stock market but I think
there is a comparison. If you invest all you've got in something of great potential, what are the odds that you will come
out ahead? I invested and "lost", but I wouldn't have missed it for the world. Kim, you were and are one of the best friends I ever had. So I don't want to perturb
anyone by pointing out anything positive about plural marriage if that is not what you want to hear. Oh, there are plenty
of "hairy" stories and heart break too. I am willing to tell it like it is. But I am not a "poor me"
person. All for now.
Deanna
Question for Deanna I was wondering why Deanna divorced since she appeared pretty happy living polygamy. It would help us
to understand better to include that information.
Nancy
Deanna Responds (Boy does she respond! I predict this
letter will be a classic.) Lets put it this way, Nancy: I ( and others) saw him as a man of God THEN.
He was a man on the way up who helped me, who was on the way down. You have to understand that I was a wannabe hippie
when I met Sam. He helped me to change the hurtful and wrong lifestyle that I was beginning to embrace as a wild 16 year old.
The sad truth is that a polygamous lifestyle does not encourage a man to continue the onward climb to "perfection".
There DOES exist the rare man who grows in Christ-like attributes and is able to love and guide a large family. But most
fall into the various temptations that inevitably accompany a man who is in such demand that he starts to see himself as better
or more valuable than the other members of his family. (especially the female part). Add to that a meek and submissive disposition
on the part of a wife ( me ) and you have a recipe for disaster!
Mix well and let steam for 29 years and wha la! you've got a self-centered, brutal dictator and a born again woman who ain't
putting up with sh*#. My children were denied the benefit of an education, vaccinations, health care, proper food and
nutrition, not to mention the selfless love and protection that a father should provide. I was under a spell that
could not be penetrated until the suffering was so great that I Had to get rid of him or die. Deanna
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Missing Fathers Leave a Void I
am a grandmother raising 3 granddaughters on my own who have never had the love of a father in their lives. On a recent visit
with relatives in Southern California my nephew, who is a caring father, hugged and kissed my granddaughters goodbye. My youngest
granddaughter (10 years) got a funny look on her face and I realized that this was the first time a father figure had given
her a kiss. I am aware of the interaction between other little girls and their fathers and know that this is something I can't
possibly replace. I also realized that children, especially little girls, have an emptyness that can only be filled by a father,
that has real love for his children. Until this void is filled, they will always instinctively long for and gravitate to people
or things to fill it....Sylvia
Melanie Remembers Luke Hi Kim, I don't know if you remember
me by name. I worked for Stepping Stone for 13 years, and worked with your dear Luke. I left there in 2007 to stay home with
my 3 boys. I came across your site today and I just had to write you a little note. Luke has and always will be one of my favorite people. I am so glad to see that you wrote a book about your
story and I am looking forward to getting a copy next time I head to the book store. I have always been amazed by the way
that your family persevered through such tragedy and manged to stay a strong and loving family. It is wonderful to see you using your story for Gods glory. Please tell Luke I said hello. I will continue
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Hope is Here I have just ordered 2 copies of your
book from Amazon.com. One is for my personal library and one is for The HOPE Organization's library. HOPE helps
folks out of polygamy. One of our directors is married to a man who grew up in Colonia LeBaron. Although HOPE
usually helps folks from the FLDS polygamous group, I have read a number of books about the LeBaron sect. I have read some great reviews about
your book on the Amazon web site. I can't wait to get my copy. Thanks for having the courage to reveal your personal story. It really
helps bring awareness to the abuses occurring in polygamy under the guise of religion. Elaine Tyler The HOPE Organization
theHOPEorg.org
Kind
Words Hi
Kim, I
enjoyed your book immensely. It was hard to put it down. I really believe you were protected by God throughout your life.You had many close
calls, but you always seemed to have an inner awareness that something wasn’t right. I just kept saying WOW! WOW! WOW! With every new episode
or experience you or your family had. It was so sad but also so amazing how you realized (given insight) you would "lose
me." Also Ron and you were so blessed to see what was happening and get out. I knew Ruth raised her sisters. But now I have even
more respect and admiration for her and you. You and Ron were there for your family. I’m so sorry for all the loss that you had to
experience. My heart aches for what your parents must have felt about getting their daughters into polygamy.Your book would
have an impact on anybody thinking of going into polygamy. Keep up the good work, Kim. God be with you. Your friend, Carol |
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